American singer song writer Aimee Mann demonstrates her understanding of the narcissistic alliance in her 2002 hit song “The Moth”, which opens with the following verse:
The moth don’t care when he sees the flame
He might get burned but he’s in the game
And once he’s in, he can’t go back
He’ll beat his wings til he burns them black
If you’ve ever found yourself drawn to a narcissist, you may just feel like a bug to light.Read More
New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings
- Lao Tzu
Japanese organizing consultant turned Netflix star, Marie Kondo, offers sound advice to her clients who struggle with saying goodby to things their home they once loved. In her “clearing out your closet” episode”, she encourages people to take each item of clothing, hold it to their hearts, close their eyes and see how it makes them feel. Then she says, “If it brings you joy, keep it, if it doesn’t, thank it.”Read More
When people show you who they are, believe them the first time
- Maya Angelou
English Poet Alexander Pope wrote in his Essay on Criticism, “to err is human, to forgive is divine”.
Few things feel more heavenly then when someone really “gets” how they’ve hurt you. It’s easy to forgive them when they honestly apologize, make amends, and genuinely do things differently because they’ve learned the error of their way(s). Sometimes however, this doesn’t happen. Sometimes, behavioral patterns repeat, promises get made that aren’t kept, and sometimes, the one that did the hurting actually denies doing what they did.Read More
Oh I’m sorry. I thought you meant what you promised
People are perfectly imperfect, there’s no getting around that.
Our imperfections and peccadillos will inevitable disappoint those we love from time to time. Most people, in good faith, don’t mean to mistreat or rather “misfeed” others. Most like to treat those they care about well…Read More