Posts in Surviving Betrayal
When You're Attracted To Narcissists Like A Moth To A Flame

American singer song writer Aimee Mann demonstrates her understanding of the narcissistic alliance in her 2002 hit song “The Moth”, which opens with the following verse:

The moth don’t care when he sees the flame

He might get burned but he’s in the game

And once he’s in, he can’t go back

He’ll beat his wings til he burns them black

If you’ve ever found yourself drawn to a narcissist, you may just feel like a bug to light.

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Why Unforgiving Someone Can Be More Important Than Forgiving Them

When people show you who they are, believe them the first time

- Maya Angelou

English Poet Alexander Pope wrote in his Essay on Criticism,  “to err is human, to forgive is divine”.  

Few things feel more heavenly then when someone really “gets” how they’ve hurt you. It’s easy to forgive them when they honestly apologize, make amends, and genuinely do things differently because they’ve learned the error of their way(s). Sometimes however, this doesn’t happen. Sometimes, behavioral patterns repeat, promises get made that aren’t kept, and sometimes, the one that did the hurting actually denies doing what they did.  

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