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Can Practicing Tantra Save Your Relationship? The Answer May Surprise You!

Mega rock star Sting swears by it.

So do many other celebrity and non- celebrity tantric practitioners, who claim to have found the secret to lasting love and sexual bliss. But does practicing tantra really help couples, particularly couples who are in complicated relationships, or on the brink of no longer being a couple, find their way back to both walking and lying in fields of gold?

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How to Know When to End a Relationship: 5 things to consider first

New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings

- Lao Tzu

Japanese organizing consultant turned Netflix star, Marie Kondo, offers sound advice to her clients who struggle with saying goodby to things their home they once loved. In her “clearing out your closet” episode”, she encourages people to take each item of clothing, hold it to their hearts, close their eyes and see how it makes them feel. Then she says, “If it brings you joy, keep it, if it doesn’t, thank it.”

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Why Unforgiving Someone Can Be More Important Than Forgiving Them

When people show you who they are, believe them the first time

- Maya Angelou

English Poet Alexander Pope wrote in his Essay on Criticism,  “to err is human, to forgive is divine”.  

Few things feel more heavenly then when someone really “gets” how they’ve hurt you. It’s easy to forgive them when they honestly apologize, make amends, and genuinely do things differently because they’ve learned the error of their way(s). Sometimes however, this doesn’t happen. Sometimes, behavioral patterns repeat, promises get made that aren’t kept, and sometimes, the one that did the hurting actually denies doing what they did.  

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The Most Important Rule You Need To Follow In All Your Relationships.

We’ve all heard of the “Golden Rule”: treat others as you would like to be treated”.

But believe it or not, it’s actually not the best strategy for negotiating intimate relationships.

Why?

Because it assumes that what your partner thinks, wants, needs, and feels is the same as what you want, need, think and feel.

The truth is, some times it is, and sometimes it not.

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